ADOPT A CHILD ABROAD: HOW TO DO IT?

WHAT IS ELIGIBILITY FOR ADOPTION?

As for the National Adoption, also for the International one, the court for the Minors makes inquiries of psycho-social nature , relying on social services, Asl etc. to evaluate the suitability of the couple to adopt a child. Other sanitary investigations are also arranged that are addressed to the public security authorities.

In particular it is necessary that:

  • spouses who require eligibility have been  married for at least three years , or who have been married for less time, may prove to have lived in a stable and continuous way before marriage for a period of three years. For example, those who have lived together for at least three years can adopt a child immediately after marriage. Stable cohabitation is demonstrable by exhibiting a family status certificate.
  • at the time of application for eligibility for adoption no separation between spouses in the three years prior to the application must be made, not even in fact.
  • the age of the couple must be at least eighteen years old and no more than forty – five the age of the child, with the possibility of derogation in some serious cases. Adoption is not excluded when the age limit is exceeded by only one of the adopters of not more than ten years. Another exception is when the adoption concerns a brother already adopted by the couple.

WHAT VALIDITY DOES THE APPLICATION FOR ELIGIBILITY?

The application must be presented in plain paper, accompanied by documents that certify the possession of the required requisites and, in the case of international adoption,   has a validity of one year .

WHICH DOCUMENTS SHOULD BE ATTACHED TO THE APPLICATION?

As with national adoption, the spouses must attach the following documents to the application:

  • birth certificate of the spouses;
  • family status ;
  • declaration of consent to the adoption of the ascendants (the future grandparents) of the applicants, as established for the substitutive declaration of a notarial deed. In the event of their death it is necessary to attach the death certificate of the applicants’ parents and the medical certificate attesting to them;
  • mod.101, mod. 740 or paycheck ;
  • certificate of the judicial register of both spouses;
  • notorious deed or substitutive declaration with the attestation that between the adoptive spouses there is no personal separation, not even in fact;
  • clinical examinations attesting to the good health of future parents, together with certification of public structure that excludes TB, HIV, venereal and cardiovascular diseases;

Once the Juvenile Court is in possession of all the necessary information issues the decree of suitability .

At this point the couple can contact an Authorized Body to proceed with the adoption in the foreign state.

The couple will be asked to go abroad to meet the child  to whom, based on age and availability, has been matched.

If the meetings with the child have a favorable outcome, the procedure provides for the return to Italy of the couple and the child.

Italian parents in New York: what education for our children?

Rossana and Fabrizio have been living outside Italy for more than 13 years, except for a brief return to the base for about 24 months. He, a manager of a multinational company, happily welcomed the opportunity of the transfer to offer a different view to the family and she, employed in the same company, has temporarily left the job to devote herself full time to the management of the family and the education of children . After a few years in Switzerland, since 2013 I am definitely in New York and their two boys, who are now 16 and 5 years old, have grown up in different environments, always attending international schools.

Their experience is common to that of many families who are facing a privileged emigration condition, linked to professional and life choices. But if two adults who elect another country to their home take their roots with them, making diversity an added value and assimilating from the new culture the best for them, what happens to the new generation, which is suspended between a culture family acquired through a third party and an international education?

Beyond the character and the ability to adapt individually, the bond that the young have with their culture of origin is obviously filtered by the new context in which they grow up and in which, in a certain sense, they risk remaining “foreign”. A condition that obviously has pros and cons, but which seems to determine at least one privilege over all: the freedom to live without conditioning. Provided that growth has been led by parents who are strongly aware of their role.

So we have told Fabrizio and Rossana how they have faced and managed the education of their children in the melting pot of New York culture. Starting from the assumption that “the etymology of educating is e-ducere, that is, ‘pulling out’. Every culture inevitably adds, puts a uniform on you and rules; education, on the other hand, understood in an absolute sense, should not ‘add’ or worse inculcate but on the contrary let children ‘blossom’, help them bring out the best in them “.

Is there an “absolute” way of educating that is not strictly linked to the culture of a particular country?

R: “I would say yes, the nice thing is to take the most interesting things, the best, from each culture. We are Italians, we brought Italy to America, but we also try to make our own to a certain extent the American way of conceiving the education and growth of children “.

F: “Let’s start by saying that babies are born without education, for them one culture is worth the other and therefore the very first training can be absolutely free. It is growing that cultural aspects become important, and an idea is to integrate in the training method the most interesting aspects of various cultures. The fact that in America is greatly appreciated the Montessori method, born in Italy, is proof of this “.